Friendships and New Beginnings

By: E.C. Anagaran III
First Published: June 29, 2009

Minsan, pinipili mo lang kung sinong re-replayan mo. Pero naisip mo ba na pinipili rin nila kung sinong tini-text nila?” – Bob Ong

         An old cliche reminds us that “people and friends come and go.” Some, passing like a cold breeze, others leaving indelible marks in our lives. Some are just there for the perks, most stay for the long run. Some love us for what we give, a lot love us for who we are. But whatever sort of friends they are, more often than not, at a given season, at a certain junction, at a particular crossroad, they become part of our lives. And when they eventually leave by circumstances or reasons we have, or do not have, control over, we either get hurt or may not notice it at all.

         I’m a funny guy. I choose my friends well. Of course you’ll say “I choose my friends too!” But hear me out and let me explain what I call categories of friendships.

         Although I am surrounded by people – interacting, teaching and mentoring everyday, not all of them are my friends. A lot are considered to be acquaintances.  Many are colleagues. Most just ambience – a filmmaking lingo that means a huge crowd with no speaking lines.

         So really, I only have around three to five people whom I consider as friends. These people are the ones I pour my heart out to.  These circle of persons is whom I share my resources with like books, gym equipment and finances. My precious time is spent laughing and bantering jokes, listening to their heartaches and celebrating triumphs together, like we were young people again. These select few know my strengths, weaknesses and desires and aspirations. Together with my family, pastors and mentors, these are the ones whose opinions of me really matter. These people are the ones I search out for in a crowd. And when I see them, I smile.

         But, eventually, friends leave. Hopefully, not because we did something wrong to drive them away. It has happened to me and, I guess, to all of us.  At some point we took different roads. Our paths diverged.  We  tried desperately to hold on, to keep the friendship, only to give up eventually. But this is one of life’s reality: friends leave.

          And so we always pray and hope that the friendships we have right now will last and be more intimate in each passing day. We always desire to grow and learn from each other. We fervently strive to make God the center of our friendships. We vigilantly check that we treat our friends as equals.

         Let us enjoy each day out, relish every secret, mourn every heartache and create wonderful memories together.  Let us take time to make the most out of the season when friends become part of our lives. So that when the seasons change we will have memories of summer that would last throughout the winter–awaiting the arrival of a new spring, of new beginnings.

Friendships and New Beginnings

Author: Edmundo C. Anagaran III

Editor: Ana Maria S. Burkhead

© All Rights Reserved

November 2016 


Ode To The Moon Lagoon

09 September 2016

Poem By: E.C. Anagaran III

Towering sentinels line the paved roads

Carpet of greens and yellow coral toads

Through a cool meadow and bamboo nodes

Marks the arrival of the moon lagoon ode

The shining lagoon mirrors the night sky

Mermaids sing to those who dare to pass by

Critects hum, fireflies dance, sunflowers bloom

As young await the rise of the fresh June

Lofty dreams fly high with ambitions

Fair flowing hair given inspirations

Of love and kisses, of sweet sensations

As hard work repaid by lost emotions

Four filled years of memories are here made

Heroes are born and perpetually laid

Oh little blue books are checked and rechecked

Proud flags fly ancient script of green and red

Dear moon, take me back to that oval road

To taste once again the January cold

Eternal gratitude to the maroon

Oh hail! Oh hail! to the old moon lagoon

Ode To The Moon Lagoon

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Para Sa Iyo Boss

By: E.C. Anagaran III

There’s no easy way of letting go of something that I know will never happen again. But I will face the world

 head-on knowing that I have strength to let go.

I am aware that when you came into my life, there will also come a time that I have to give you up. Then that would be the end of it.

Yet you left me at the very moment when I felt like I can’t give you up.  I cried, and still cry, for the memories, for the pain, for the times I had you in my life.

I know you are not mine but holding onto you made me feel so alive.

You saw the tears ran down from my eyes and it spelled the truth about how I really felt inside.

Today, I am still trying to pick up the rest of the pieces but I thank you for the love and the pain.  

It tells me I am ALIVE!

One day, I believe, I can finally say I’m over you.  Soon, I hope,  I will be able to stand next to you without wanting to hold your hands.   

I know, somewhere in my journey, I will fall in love again.  

I know I will.

I know I can.